Nothing To Fear But Fear Itself

I miss him. Six months ago we said our goodbyes, and nearly 2 months ago we said hello and goodbye again. I have learnt a lot. Lets share it.
Nothing and nobody is ever perfect, imperfections are what make a person or experience perfect. If the ideas and expectations in our head were the mould to every relationship we ever had, it would fill our habit cup up to the brim; consistency would be ridiculously consistent and we would lose our ability to adapt, accept and even more scarishly, we would lose our creativity and passion in life. Stability is necessary, but the imagination is no accident in evolution. 
What we have to decide as individuals, is what imperfections we're willing to deal with more than others.
Maybe it really pisses you off that your boyfriend doesn't shave his beard often, or that your girlfriend counts her calories when you splash out for dinner. But are these things that are going to make or break your relationship with them? They might be, it's totally up the individual as to what they're willing to 'put up with', what it is that they're happy being around and getting over the little pissy feeling they have towards that habit/trait/characteristic and focus on what sparks the romantic vibrancy for them. But it is so utterly different for everyone. 
I understand now what he meant when he said, anyone can be in a relationship with anyone. ;If two people are understanding, empathetic, considerate of one another, and don't hold onto one another as an attachment, sure, I believe any two people could be in a relationship. But unfortunately that is not the case for most of this world as we know it. And we have personal preferences.


I believe the social nicks in the world are an outcome of judgement, a lack of empathy and understanding, of which begins from the inside. The world is a projection of ourselves. What we don't like in others, we don't like in ourselves.
The girl I disliked when I was younger for wearing heaps of make up and short skirts, was because I didn't like not getting attention from guys like she did.
The reason I feel angry at the hot yoga teacher my partner is talking to, is because I believe I'm not as attractive as they are, which is not at all true, and my insecurity on the subject will probably prove that belief to be correct in the end, because more than looks, true confidence is a winning attraction. 
The guy I disliked for being a show off at the dinner, was a mirror of my own desires being played out by somebody that wasn't me. and that is a little bit of self obsession and inconsideration. "I like being the centre of attention, therefore I don't like when they are, because it challenges my own belief system that says I'm the smartest/wittiest/coolest/etc. If they're the centre of attention, it means I'm not, and then I have to reevaluate how I feel about myself."


People like feeling good about themselves, what they forget is that, that feeling comes from within themselves, not the outside world. But with that having been distilled into them since childhood, they have given birth to judgement, inconsideration and a lack of acceptance, all of which are perpetrated on themselves before being passed onto others. We need to learn to accept ourselves, from there change will come and global consciousness will also shift, and our entire world will be fuller and brighter.
There is nothing scary about honest confidence. 


All of us are good people full of love, with gifts and passions to bring joy to the world and everyone else. Becoming self aware is not easy, it is even more difficult to push past the pride and do what you know deep down to be right. Hearing that can even be scary. But do remember, there is nothing to fear but fear itself.